Based upon discussions and interviews with members of P-FLAG, an advocacy and support group for the parents of lesbian and gay children, this unique and updated volume gives parents the information and insight they need to deal with their kids’ coming out and develop deeper more nurturing relationships with them as they move forward. Clearly organized and written, it provides answers and insights to the many questions you are likely to have and shares the experiences of other real mothers and fathers.
“As I read these poignant reflections by the parents of other gay people, I hear Mom and Dad as they might have sounded confiding to a friend. Their initial fear, hurt, denial, anger alienation, and shame, among other feelings are all here. One of the great strengths of this book is its testimonies by real people who have made the journey through these emotions. Parents of gay people who are confused and in pain will be comforted and encouraged by the ‘chats’ they can have with these anonymous new friends.
Once secure in the assurance they are not alone in their feelings, parents of gay people are then freed to think more clearly about their situation and to seek answers to their many questions. Most parents will be as confused by the subject of homosexuality as gay people are initially. That lack of familiarity with the topic often leads to fear. And, as most people would agree, the best antidote to fear is factual information and exposure.”
Writing Prompt 1
Write an imaginary letter to your son and daughter (you don’t need to ever send it if you don’t want to.) Explain what you meant by some of the comments you might have made about gay people in the past, whether positive or negative. The point of this letter is not necessarily to apologize, but to explain your feelings.
350 – 700 words
Writing Prompt 2
Imagine you’re having lunch with your child fifteen years in the future. You’re chatting and catching up on each other’s news. What is your son or daughter telling you about their adult life? How do you feel about it?
450 – 800 words
Writing Prompt 3
Write a scene in which another parent comes to you for advice after their son or daughter has come out to them. What do you say? What kind of advice might you have for them?
400 – 700 words